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Talk to your Child Early about their Donor Conceived Origins


According to Britain's Human Fertilisation and Embryology Authority, if your child or children were conceived as a result of donor assisted conception, telling them about their origins at the right time, doesn't have to be difficult. This is especially true if you talk to your child early about their donor conceived origins.

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Fathers Parenting Our Boys

This is Father's Day weekend in the US. We honor fathers with extroverted actions of affection and appreciation with handmade gifts from the heart. Yet we know that no matter what we give on Father's Day to express our feelings, it can only be an approximation. Expressing our feelings as...

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Doctors Humbled by Ability to Help More Families

We have the best job in the world, bar none. We are privileged every single day to walk alongside people pursuing what is, and will most likely always be, the biggest dream of their lifetime: creating a family. We find ourselves in the midst of a gigantic social change, if not a global movement, and

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Families with Children Born Through IVF and Donor Assistance


Pat yourself on the back, you've committed to create an atmosphere of open communication with your child. We are so happy that you have found our site. How We Became a Family is dedicated to helping families open up communication with their children about their donor conceived origins. It is our hope that families who have used third party donors will feel completely understood, able to be themselves, and feel comfortable in their immediate family and in society.

A Little Bit About Us. We are a family, seekers of truth and beauty, parents to three children, all conceived through egg donor in vitro. Our first-born (singleton birth) and our second (boy/girl twins). Bernard is a physician, Teresa is an artist. We are a family of art and science. Photos and more information about us here.

Why are we doing this? We are doing this to be part of, and to help create an open dialogue in a growing community of parents like you, like us, who have traversed the infertility landscape, and have successfully built a family through the process of donor assistance and are parenting after infertility. Those of you who are on this path, or those who have traveled this path before us, please feel free to advise and share! Do you have lessons learned that could help us all? Your willingness to share helps us all gain more comfort with this complex topic.

What are we offering? We want to help you. We didn't have resources 8 years ago when we began parenting, and want to help others through this process. We are offering our family's personal experience on this subject, as a blog site for parents to share and converse about how they handle this topic as their children grow and ask more questions. This blog is for you. We are also offering our experience in a beautifully illustrated, hardcover children's book titled "How We Became A Family" to help parents begin the dialogue with their children through the simple act of reading together.